Climbing Banyans on Oahu

July 20, 2008

(Posted 7/20/08)
I joined some of my guide friends yesterday for some tree climbing. Banyan climbing is more like it. It was my first time and I am stoked. What a great hobby to pick up. A better work out than the gym, for sure. Below is a pic of me on my way up Tree Beard (82′ to the anchor) and another pic from my phone of Rodolph on belay.
climbing banyan trees in Hawaii



It’s Time for the United States to Retire

I think the USA should retire. Make Washington D.C. a state, make the territories into States, and then just end the grand experiment and let the 57 states (I think it’s only six territories) figure out what they want to do. Just close up shop. No more Federal Agencies, no more Federal taxes, no more Federal programs, No more military, no more America. Let’s end it. It’s been done for a long time.

Alaska could join Canada. The red states can make a country from the Midwest to the South, the North East States can make a country. The Blue Western states can make a country. And we can all be done with this fiasco. The troops can all go back to the state they came from or stay where they are if they want to be part of the new military in the places they are. The military resources in each state go to the state they are in. Close the bases around the world. Close the embassies. Let’s just end it.

Donald Trump can stay in DC or go back to New York or whatever – just as long as he isn’t where I am and he wouldn’t be. Let’s do it. Let’s end the United States of America. To start, we just all have to stop paying federal taxes and stop voting in Federal elections and stop paying attention to Federal bullshit.

Are we agreed? Okay.


Sexual Harassment War is Helping Donald Trump

I have no proof of this, I don’t need it – I simply understand it to be true. The current sexual harassment scandals and the ‘war on men’ are improving Donald Trump’s image.

I can hear you protesting and saying it’s just the oppossite. Yeah, I want you to be right, but you’re wrong. Here’s the problem.

Men are biologically driven to use our cocks. It’s a biological impulse that can overcome our ethics, our good judgment, our common sense, and nearly everything else. The only reason all men are not rapists is because most of us are wired to be turned on by a sexual partner who desires us. If our ethical beliefs align with our sex drive then we are good – it’s not the other way around. As a man, I feel pretty certain that the overriding factor is the desire to experience sexual release and if there is a way to do that which fits with societal norms we will use it. For most of us, marriage and relationships provide that release – which is a big reason why we go that route – sorry romantics. I’m not saying there are not other reasons – but this is bigger than it gets credit for.

I’m not sure why the current multiple situations think its okay to ignore this aspect – my guess is that it’s because women don’t share the same compulsion – we can pretend they do, but they don’t – or maybe they have a superior built in control system that works better than ours – in any event – there is a word for a woman who does have the same wiring – nymphomaniac – it’s telling that there is no word for the male version – because the word is simply – man. Men understand this and women simply cannot – just like men can’t understand menstruation or child birth – they are not part of our biology. The sex drive in men, however, is very very real.

There is a gradient, I’m sure. Is there a heterosexual man alive who could not be seduced by the most beautiful woman in the world? Maybe…but probably not. This despite everything he might stand to lose for it – marriage, family, respect, position, money, power – whatever – in the moments when he is being seduced – all rational thoughts of those things disappear. Governments know this, spies know it, and let’s face it – everyone knows this.

If a reasonably attractive woman clearly offers sex to a man – any man – there is a pretty good chance he will take it. Why? He can’t fucking help it. I know that’s not what women want to hear, I know that we all want to pretend that it’s a choice he is making, but it’s not. Unless this is a seriously self-awakened and self-aware and fully conscious individual – he will succomb to the offer.

But wait, you say, that’s different. He is being offered, not using power or position or percieved control to take advantage of a woman. It’s not different. Sorry. If the possibility exists and the liklihood of success is better than the liklihood of failure (or some such metric) then he will go for the sex. Bill Clinton with an intern? He had everything to lose and is arguably one of the smartest men in the world – but he did it. Why? His rational brain was not working. His sexual desire was making up new rationales to make it okay for him. Donald Trump grabbing women and kissing them or grabbing their pussy – same thing, no matter how awful it is. Roy Moore dating teenage girls – despicable, but in his brain – rational. Al Franken – rationalized as okay. Harvey Weinstein – using what he had to get what he wanted. Louis C.K. – brain flooded with desire…And the list goes on and on…Bill Cosby, etc etc

So, am I saying that these things were okay? Of course not. We need to control ourselves. I’d like to think that if I were in a position of power, being the person I am today, I would not take advantage of a known power diferential – but, deep in my man-loins – there is a sympathy for all of these guys because I understand that what they did was find a way to have sex with women they were attracted to – and that is what men are wired to do.

The wider and deeper this war goes – the more it drives men to repress that this biological drive exists and the more that happens, the more they look at Donald Trump as someone who represents them. I know that on the surface – all of this seems damaging for Trump, but in the areas that we men are no longer allowed to let the world know about – it is building a sympathy for him.

I see almost all of this as a result of the artificial and imposed American protestant ethics about sex. In the USA we have some of the most backwards ideas about sex of anywhere in the world. We are more sexually repressed than any developed nation in the world.

Legalized and regulated prostitution and the eradication of the stigma of prostitution would solve a lot of this. Educated, healthy, and well paid prostitutes would create the release valve for this problem. I promise you that if there were a hotel where Al Franken, Louis C.K., and the rest of them could go to pay for sex without any stigma attached – lots of these problems would disappear. You may not like to hear that, but it’s true. And, believe it or not, there are women that would welcome it as a respected and safe profession – again, it’s a matter of stigma. The Courtesans of ancient Persia, the Geisha of ancient Japan, even the Madams of the Old West – these were not considered dirty or befouled or ruined women – and that made the difference.

So, like everyone, I’m watching this sexual harrassment thing unfold – and like everyone, I’m horrified by it. I’m also horrified by the fact that I think it gives Donald Trump a much better chance at winning re-election in three years.

America Me


I remember back in the early 2000s when I was living on the island of Kauai – this middle aged guy showed up on the island, wife and two young kids in tow. He was likable enough and hustled non-stop to make deals, set up new projects, and get money. Actually, he came across as a shyster…any conversation with him felt like an attempt to get you to do some work for him without pay – he was constantly setting up deals and partnerships where he enabled other people to do the work and then share their profit with him. Myself and all of my single guide friends – we laughed at this guy behind his back and avoided him at all costs – but it was almost impossible to avoid him – he was everywhere.

Back then, it was impossible for any of us to understand what he was doing. Now though, with a wife and child of my own – and a constant need to hustle so that we can continue to live here in this paradise that impossible rents have turned into a kind of hell – I get it. He was trying to find a way to let his children grow up in a wonderful place. He wanted his kids to have the chance to find happy lives and have happy memories of childhood in a wonderful and magical place.

I wonder what happened to that guy. I wonder what happened to his kids. I wonder what happened to all of my single guide friends. I can tell you what happened to me – I’m a middle aged guy with wife and kid in tow trying to find a way to let my daughter have happy childhood memories of growing up in paradise. I’m doing it while trying hard not to do what that guy did – coming across as a shyster or a person who is trying to profit from other people’s work.

But here I am…with perspective I didn’t have a decade ago.

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The War Against Men

It’s about fucking time. We’ve been degrading women, the earth, children, strangers, animals, water, the air, and more for all of human history as far as I can tell. If there was ever any measure of who should not be in charge of this planet – we, and by we – I mean men, all of us with dicks and balls no matter where we like to put them – we should not be allowed to rule. We do a terrible job of it.

Yes, we are good at some things. Some of us are nice. Some of us are considerate. Some of us aren’t bad at all. Some of us are even good – but the record speaks for itself. Men are guilty of noise pollution, bullying, creating wars, and all kinds of other things.

I for one am very happy to have women step up to the plate and relieve us of our power to rule.

A few words of advice – if I may – ignore or pay attention – it’s up to you.

1) We did it wrong. Coercion and force are not the way forward. Mass killings, mass incarceration, warfare, and vile violence are not the answer.

2) Punishing the Germans after WWI led to Hitler. Punishing men could lead to a terrible backlash…please find a way to do it that doesn’t give power to monsters.

3) Men essentially want three things 1) Praise 2) Blowjobs 3) Sandwiches – it’s the quest for these three things (which all have the most power when they come from women) that have led to all the horrors men have brought to the world. I’m throwing this in because in my experience, most women don’t understand just how powerful they really are. This is it – the secret to controlling all the men and taking all the power.

4) If you can figure out how to exterminate us, it will probably be best – but I can’t help but think that we offer something that can be wonderful – some of us make the best fathers – of course others are only good if they are gone. So, either way, I understand.

5) Focus on those who nurture cooperation and working together – I mean when you are giving power to leaders…because there are some women who are essentially chasing the same motivations as men and those women will only bring you more of the same.

6) This is the big failing of men in leadership – we seem to have always been focused on fixing the external world while the world around us was imperfect and suffering. Start with the woman next to you and make sure she is taken care of before you start looking across the world. A community of autonomous and healthy people where no one is left out – that’s a community that can grow and help others.

But, I’m just another man offering a little bit of perspective from where we were coming from – offer me some praise and you own my soul. Offer me a sandwich and you own my body. Offer me a blowjob and you own my ability to make decisions. I know that isn’t the revolution you have in mind, but it would work.

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The Problem with Everything

The problem with everything is that human beings have a tendency to take the short term self-interest choice over the long terms self interest choice. We are, for some reason, wired for it. I understand this, but I’m having a hard time explaining it in words.

Let’s say there is an apple tree next to a town. The tree provides enough apples for everyone. Perfect, right? Wrong. Every person in the town will feel a little bit of an urge to hoard or to take more than their fair share. Will they all do it? Probably not. I believe there is an intrinsic altruism built into some people – maybe altruism is the wrong word – maybe golden rule practicality is the phrase I need to use here. So, the golden rule crowd will realize that they don’t want anyone to take their allocated share, so they won’t take more than their share – it’s a sort of long term self-interest but it comes out as looking like altruism in the short term. If there are people who are genuinely altruistic – they are exceedingly rare – I would suggest that there are only long term self interested and short term self interested people. There are also those who are playing a different game – they give up their share for some percieved benefit. There are many such – pity, honor, respect, or something else. The bottom line is that everyone looks at the apple tree and sees a benefit for themselves – and if the consequences outweigh the rewards for keeping everything even – everyone will have their share of apples.

But we all know that the world does not work like that. Those who seize the advantage early, generally have less consequences than those who do not. Some people realize that and are watching for that opportunity. In any event – the apples become a problem because some people are taking more than their fair share so others are getting less than their fair share. Cause and effect.

The headman of the town – whether appointed by strength, ability, or election – it doesn’t matter. A person steps to the fore and says the apples are a problem now – so we need to make some rules about them…and not everyone agrees. The person taking too many says something like “I work harder to take the apples so I deserve more” and the person getting too little says “Just because I am shorter, doesn’t mean I don’t deserve the apples growing higher” and the person who is canning the apples say “I am taking apples that would otherwise rot and making them into something that will keep” and everyone has a reason why their self-interest is more important than the other people’s self interest.

So, assuming a Kansas cattle grazing war doesn’t break out over the apples, rules are made and people are given the job of making everyone keep to the rules – which of course fails because the people keeping the rules suddenly have an advantage that will be expolited by themselves or by those smart enough to seek to exploit the advantage. So, ultimately, some people are left hungry, some people get fat, some people get rich, and others become poverty stricken. The poverty stricken and the hungry say “Hey, what about our interest?” And the rich and fat say “Why should we have to take care of those who don’t or can’t work as hard as we do?” And everyone is ultimately fucked because eventually, a cold, poor, hungry person cuts the apple tree down to use as firewoodpor simply to even the playing field so that no one has any apples.

The End.

What if, however, there was a way to change the way people think? What if, instead of focusing on the short term self interest, there was a way to get them to focus on the long term self interest? In that case, the apples would be harvested by all, the excess would be canned, and the needs of all would be met by the work of all. Wouldn’t that be awesome if something like that could happen?

The problem is that it can’t. Humans are short sighted, selfish, and ultimately unable to work together for a long term collective good.

And that’s the problem with everything.


This Brave New World

I’m happy that the world is getting safer for people who are not in power positions. I’m glad that the people who have been abused – whether sexually, intellectually, or physically can now come forward and not fear reprisal.

I do wonder, however, whether we have entered a new era where guilt is presumed and a court of law is no longer needed. The instant media makes it possible for a lone quiet voice to be picked up and amplified – and more voices can be added until the accused no longer has any sort of presumption of innocence. It seems that those in a power position are given the least liklihood of actually being innocent of their charges…which is probably as it should be – the exception being the President of the United States – who despite multiple accusers appears to still be gathering more power.

The President aside – the accusers of others are given full throat and no proof really needs to be presented in order to destroy a career, a body of work, or previous accomplishments. I am happy that the accusers, many of whom or even most of whom are undoubtedly actual victims, are able to come forward and to voice their injuries. I do wonder, however, whether we are crossing a threshhold which is perhaps more dangerous to society as a whole.

I’m no fan of our human society nor the capitalistic machinations of our leaders. I’m no fan of the powerful exploiting the weak. If this is the needle which will cause the collapse of the haystack then bring on the accusations and throw them where you may, however, it might be a good time to take a deep breath and consider the implications of what we are doing. It is only a matter of time before a false accusation ruins an innocent person – thus far, that doesn’t seem to be the case, but certainly it is coming and my hunch is that in our enthusiasm to destroy the powerbrokers who have exploited the weak we will perhaps have a tendency to ignore the mistakes or lies in our mad rush towards this brave new world.


Dear White Men – please stop … just stop…

Dear White Men,

I’m one of you, I’m a white man. An American, born and raised. I’m a vet. I’m heterosexual. I’ve hunted animals with guns. I’ve driven drunk, paid for it, and learned my lesson. Seriously, I”m one of you. I played football in school. I’ve owned a pickup truck. I’ve owned guns – all kinds of guns. I can go on, but do I need to? Have I got white guy cred yet? Will you listen?

Please stop. All of it. Just stop it.

You know what I’m talking about. Yes, I’m talking about the murder of innocent people – defenseless people. Kids in elemntary schools, people at the movies, people in church, people at concerts, people playing sports, in general – people just trying to live, trying to get by, trying to figure out why they are here and why life is so fucking confusing, people just being people.

Stop killing people. Just quit it.

I know you are mad and looking for someone to blame. The world isn’t what you were told it would be. You didn’t get what you wanted. None of us did. We all have to deal with it. You’re making it worse though.

It’s not just the killing though. The whole bro-culture thing, the macho date raper and sexual asault things, the gay bashing, the racism, the road rage, the internet trolling, the calling of people snowflakes or libtards, the rest of it. All of that stuff…it’s disgusting and it’s fucking up everything. You are making things worse for yourselves and for other white men. You are creating a world where being a white man is an ugly thing. You are doing it. Stop it. Just stop.

Look, I’m a white man and you are making me hate white men. Imagine how you are making people who aren’t white men feel? Do you think they are appreciating white men more because of you? Do you think they are attracted to white men more because of you? I can promise you, that you are not making the world a better place for anyone. You are making the world a scary, ugly, awful place and you are making it awful for everyone – including yourself and other white men.

Please stop it. Please.


Christopher Damitio


Getting Left Behind – A Technological Cautionary Tale

I was riding high in 2011 and 2012. I was living in Africa and traveling the world with an office in Istanbul, an office in Morocco, and a fake office in Hawaii – just because it was the only way to stay connected to my home. I was publishing an online magazine and employed a dozen award winning writers, photographers, and social media experts. I had two virtual assistants and my website was routinely fighting for the top tier of travel sites and blogs. I was earning close to $10k per month and life was really really good. My ego was blown up like a three week dead donkey’s bloated stomach. I was going all over Europe on press trips and to travel conferences. I bragged to a friend that I was being smart about my good fortune by investing it all back in the business that was most profitable for me – travel websites of any quality on which I could sell advertising. I remember his words of caution when I said “There are only so many good domains for websites so at some point, the big travel companies are going to have to buy mine. It’s like investing in real estate.” As a real estate investor, he knew better. I didn’t

And then, in the seeming blink of an eye, shit changed. It was a process that stretched over about two years – but looking back, I can see that it happened pretty quickly.

My business was based on gaming search engine results, most notably Google. I pushed my own sites higher and higher while using those metrics to sell links which pushed other sites higher and higher. At my highest point I had close to two hundred travel websites and then – while waiting for the next page rank update – something awful happened.

First of all – Google suspended my adsense account and cut me off from everything I had earned since the last payment – several thousand dollars. It pissed me off and I appealed the decision, but Google answers to no one. I still can’t use adsense. It wasn’t my biggest revenue source so it wasn’t that big a deal but it was the harbinger of more to come.

Next, a whole shitload of new social media jumped on the scene. Reddit, Instagram, Pinterest, Google Plus, Tumbler, Snapchat, Vine, and a thousand or so that didn’t work or last long. I was trying to stay on top of them all, trying to maintain my pole postion, and trying to keep my sites relevant. It was full time and more changes followed quickly. The first was a sort of non-event. Google simply stopped updating pagerank – they gave one last PR update which penalized my sites for some low quality links I’d allowed through – finance and gambling thinly disguised as travel. My PR5 site was stuck at a PR3. That brough all my other sites down as well…a huge number of my sites dropped to PR0.

Suddenly PR wasn’t the metric that the SEO agencies were using to determine ad rates. They were using a whole bunch of metrics that I didn’t really understand and that I ranked pretty badly in. I’d taken a whole bunch of shortcuts and it was showing. I rode a bubble and it popped. Google updated their search algorithms and I dropped hard in the rankings. My traffic dropped from 10,000 per day to 1,000 and by 2013, despite my frantic efforts to harness the new social media and new SEO, I was outpaced and left behind. My traffic dropped to 400 visits per day. Nobody wanted to pay for that.

GooglePlus seemed like the answer. Google was taking on Facebook and me and nearly everyone else thought GooglePlus was going to dominate – but of course, that didn’t happen. I went all in for Google Plus. I began ignoring Pinterest and Facebook and Instagram and everything else to focus on G-Plus. I fucked myself with Google that time. They simply gave up on it when they realized that they were going to get hit with a whole shitload of privacy invasion lawsuits.

In early 2013, we moved to the United States. Video and streaming technologies got seriously cheaper and better. Youtube became the most important platform. I had nothing there. I tried to keep things going but advertising and revenue dried up. I let writers and photographers go, I stopped updating, and I deleted hard won sites and media from social networks. I got bitter and angry and I started to become paranoid about the level of privacy intrusion the internet was reaching. I moved backwards in time and began selling antiques.

As I’ve written before, Blogging, like I’m doing now, is pretty much irrelevant. The big travel companies learned to bypass the small media. In 2017, I earned $1000 blogging. Residual from my work in 2012, but that has dried up. Next year, unless something seriously changes, there will be even less. My social media accounts are irrelevant at best. Facebook realized it was foolish to share everything users shared when it could charge users for the same sharing. My other accounts don’t amount to much. Maybe 50k followers total and who knows how many of them are actually real people or still active.

I find myself today, left behind. I was an innovator at one point – but I couldn’t keep up. I tried to go in every direction and then I went all in on the wrong platform. In hindsight, I should have made a good Youtube channel and focused on it, but the truth is – my whole approach was flawed from the get go. I wrote books that help people without money to live better and none of my interests tend to be really commercial or marketable…I don’t write about new phones or makeup or things that can be unboxed or airline points or how to make money on the web.

I point out the shortcomings of our fucked up human civilization and the imminent demise of it. I’m not telling people to buy gold or build a bug-out shelter. My goal is to get people to think about how fucked up we are as a species and to stop being consumers, to stop being ruled by capitalists, and to stop being assholes. There isn’t really any money in that. I’m willing but haven’t found the right product yet. Or maybe I should say that the right product hasn’t found me yet.

Most likely, our civilization is going to keep moving forward and the pace of people getting left behind, like me, is going to accelerate as artificial intelligence, big data surveillance, and normal capitalist fuck-youism contineus as usual. So, what’s the moral of my tale? What’s the lesson?

I suppose it comes down to this – shit is changing faster all the time. Look both ways before you cross the internet or a self driving truck is going to leave donuts all over your fucking lawn.

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Cocoo the Coconut – A Tropical Children’s Story

I’ve written a nice children’s story. It doesn’t have any of the dark themes that I usually write about in it. It’s simple, lyrical, and nice. You can have a listen to it here

And, if you are interested in seeing it in print – you can help by claiming some of the fun rewards I’ve put together on my Kickstarter page. I’ve found a wonderful illustrator and I’m trying to get enough money together to pay her to illustrate the rest of the story. I only had enough to pay her for one watercolor painting so far, but I’d like to have each stanza illustrated.

Thank you for your support! Even if you can’t support it financially – any help you can give in sharing on social media or websites or personal contacts would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!

Cocoo the Coconut