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On Being an Expectant Father in Morocco

I can honestly say, I’ve never felt so useless as I feel as an expectant father in Morocco. My wife woke up with labor pains at 4 AM. At 5 AM we called her mother who came over, they had a process worked out for how things would work. In Moroccan culture, the man isn’t really involved. At 6 AM we went to her mother’s house (and of course, I was trying to comfort her, but since this is our first child and I’ve been kind of left out of the loop that would include me back in the USA, I tried to help with breathing, massage etc) At her mom’s they laid her on the couch and told me to just go wait in the other room. At 10 AM the midwife came. At 11 AM her water finally broke. At 1PM we finally took her to the hospital where I had to wait outside and they told me to go back to her Mom’s house and wait. Now it’s 7 pm and I just called and found out she’s still not ready (at one finger which I’m not totally sure of the meaning of, but think it has to do with the cervix) and they told me to wait and if she doesn’t deliver tonight they will send her to Fez (a nearby city) for a C-section. It’s all fairly frustrating as culturally, I’m just not allowed to be with her (even to hold her hand and say breathe or push) and since it’s not my culture and I’ve never really been through this, it’s all just a bit frightening. I suppose that’s the norm in any culture though…

I’m just thankful that her Mom is with her, which is why we decided to have the baby here. It was more important that she be comfortable than anything else…I just hope she is.

6 replies on “On Being an Expectant Father in Morocco”

Hang in there…things will be ok. Labor is often a lot longer with the first child.I know it’s difficult since it’s a different cultural experience there, but at least you can tell yourself that you won’t have to worry about your wife yelling at you the whole time about how you’re never allowed to touch her again like they’re always showing in the Western movies during the birth scenes!

Hang in there…things will be ok. Labor is often a lot longer with the first child.I know it’s difficult since it’s a different cultural experience there, but at least you can tell yourself that you won’t have to worry about your wife yelling at you the whole time about how you’re never allowed to touch her again like they’re always showing in the Western movies during the birth scenes!

Hey heads up- after my water broke they said the clock is ticking as the chance of infection is increased after the sterile sack is broken. (if the water in the sack was dirty a.k.a. miconium you have even less time) my midwife gave me a few hours to give birth then we hit the hospital for a c-section but if her cervix is only dilated a finger. thats not much. prepare for a c-section. I had the same issue with dilation. small framed ladies sometimes just dont have a large enough birth canal. But c- section was no biggie it will all be ok! Congrats Daddy! <3

Hey heads up- after my water broke they said the clock is ticking as the chance of infection is increased after the sterile sack is broken. (if the water in the sack was dirty a.k.a. miconium you have even less time) my midwife gave me a few hours to give birth then we hit the hospital for a c-section but if her cervix is only dilated a finger. thats not much. prepare for a c-section. I had the same issue with dilation. small framed ladies sometimes just dont have a large enough birth canal. But c- section was no biggie it will all be ok! Congrats Daddy! <3

ps- I guess its 24 hrs after water breaks unless there was miconium in the water (I had miconium in mine hence them rushing me in) so relax and keep us posted on her progress- sorry for the misinformation:)

ps- I guess its 24 hrs after water breaks unless there was miconium in the water (I had miconium in mine hence them rushing me in) so relax and keep us posted on her progress- sorry for the misinformation:)

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